I’ve been married for just a month now. I love my husband very much but he is obsessed with the world cup. I know it is drawing to a close, but he is driving me mad. Every match is watched, he never moves or helps do anything while football is on, the only thing he is able to do is eat and make love. I just wonder what I can do to make him pay more attention to me, it feels like another person in the relationship
Please help me
When I say you are NOT alone, trust me you are not. Obviously football isn’t your thing, that’s OK. But it is a passion for him. And I’m afraid unless you have a passion, then you’ll not know what it is like. You say you have been married a month, which is great but there is a long – long way ahead, and if you don’t control this jealousy now it’ll eat away at you and your relationship.
I would suggest you find something you like to do, perhaps go out with friends on football nights, join an evening class, find a hobby you love, whatever it is make sure you enjoy it (perhaps have a few things and alternate them). The thing to remember is you are married, not joined at the hip. It is good and healthy to have separate hobbies and likes and friends, but that should only increase your wanting and loving and needing for each other. Go out with your friends, go to bingo, do some model making, or knitting or perhaps try getting into the football, and whatever you do – don’t hold a grudge towards him or try to stop him. Instead join him and have a bit of fun. On the bright side at least he is eating and you’re sharing some fun together.